Mindful Parenting Techniques When You’re A Busy Mom
In today’s fast-paced world it’s more important than ever to be mindful and live in the present moment, and even more important if you’re a parent.
Your entire family will benefit from practicing mindfulness so let’s jump in and find out how to practice mindfulness when you’re a busy mom and what benefits it will provide to you and your child!
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What is Mindfulness?
Discipline and Mindfulness
Sometimes as parents we confuse discipline with punishment.
Discipline is to teach our children what behaviors are acceptable and what is not. It teaches kids how to control, regulate and manage their feelings and behavior in an appropriate way for the future.
Punishment is to take away control from the child by making a them “pay” for their mistakes by focusing on the things they did wrong, rather than teaching them the correct way to deal with the situation.
So how do you be mindful when you’re about to lose your cool with your kids?
- PAUSE – So your child hasn’t cleaned their room even though you asked them to. If you usually find yourself raising your voice or nagging, try taking a deep breath first. Ask yourself whether your child simply needs to be reminded, or whether they need a more thorough explanation of what you consider a clean and tidy room.
- STAY POSITIVE – instead of focusing on the things your child wrong, focus on what they are doing right! Look at the situation together and find a solution to the problem and guide them through it rather than focusing on punishment.
- PAY ATTENTION – While you may disagree with your child’s behavior, it’s important to validate their feelings by listening closely. Let them explain their side of the story, by putting away your phone and any distractions and giving them 100% of your attention and ears!
- LOOK AT THE BIGGER PICTURE – Your relationship with your child is much more important than any mishaps that may arise. Look at the situation and be open to bending your own rules when it serves the greater good.
Being Mindful When You’re Busy or Stressed Out
As a parent you’re constantly on the move, solving problems, organizing schedules, dealing with tantrums the lists go on and on, that sometimes the idea of being mindful just feels like another thing to do on an ever-growing list!
Whether you are super stressed out or just downright busy, these simple tips will help keep you mindful
- Stop what you’re doing and take some deep breaths to calm your mind.
- Observe how you’re feeling and any negative thoughts you may be having regarding the current situation.
- Make a conscious, thoughtful decision on how to calmy proceed in tackling the situation at hand.
Other mindful techniques include:
- Meditation – try to meditate for at least 5 minutes a day, even if its right before bed. Let any negative thoughts or feelings go and just focus on your breathing.
- Repeat positive affirmations
- Change your focus and find things to be grateful for
- Don’t let busy day ahead stress you out right now. Focus on the present and give your undivided attention to what you’re doing right now.
Teaching Mindfulness To Kids
Help your child develop healthy mindful habits by:
1. Manage Screen Time. Limit the amount of screen time your child has, and make sure to switch off all devices at least 1 hour before bed for more restful sleep.
2. Start New Hobbies. Help your child find hobbies that they love. Hobbies can help children learn new skills, reduce their stress levels, and help them to express their creative side.
3. Learn Together. Learn new things together as a family, read bedtime stories together or volunteer at their school!
4. Encourage Your Child To Give. Show and teach your child the joy of giving by being an example yourself. Make a list of ways to help others and do them together as a family, whether that be volunteering at a food bank, or helping your elderly neighbor next door with the groceries.
Be Mindful Each Day
Mindfulness is not a fad but a way of life. Each day work on letting go of expectations and focusing on the moment by making clear, conscious positive choices.
Otherways To Be Mindful:
1. Family Meals. Try to eat together regularly as a family each day, if that’s not possible try to designate at least one night a week to sit down and eat together.
2. Start A Morning Ritual. Create a morning ritual that encourages you to stay mindful. Say affirmations in the shower, go for a quick walk around your block or simply write down what your grateful for each morning.
3. Meditate. Try to meditate frequently, either alone for a few minutes before bed, or by listening to a guided meditation as a family.
4. Be Playful. Draw pictures with your child, sing and dance together, roleplay or build a cushion fort! Live in the moment and let everything go and truly enjoy the present moment.
Benefits Of Mindful Parenting for Parents
- More patience
- Reduced anxiety
- Enables us to be less reactive to things which would usually push our buttons
- Improves emotional awareness
- Increases gratitude
- Allows us to be more in-tune with our children
- Increases coping mechanisms to deal with difficult situations, such as tantrums etc.
- Improved immune system
Benefits of Mindful Parenting and Meditation for Children
- Enhances emotion regulation and impulse control
- Improves self-esteem
- Improves self-confidence
- Reduces stress
- Reduces anxiety and fears
- Children feel safer and more secure
- Creates grateful children able to live in the present moment
- Reduces behavioral problems
- Improves concentration and attention
- Improves parent-child relationship
- Helps children feel more compassion and empathy towards others
Being mindful and helping your children be mindful is one of the greatest gifts you can give to them. What things do you do each day to focus on and live in the moment with your children? let us know in the comments!